To Breathe or Not to Breathe?
11 Oct 2011 Leave a Comment
Now THAT is The Question…
Do you ever feel like you’re stuck on an emotional “treadmill to oblivion”? When the mind gets stuck in uncomfortable thoughts and emotions, it’s because the brain has actually been programmed to deny itself oxygen when under stress. A lack of oxygen makes it hard for the brain to shift gears into “relax and think things through calmly” mode.
Why does the brain deny itself what it needs? Early childhood conditioning demands that we “stop crying”. The only way to stop is to breathe shallowly or even stop breathing momentarily. This cuts us off from the oxygen supply and the feelings. A whole chain of events then occurs in your body and brain, rendering you helpless against automatic negative thoughts – or so it seems.
Okay, let’s step back and look a little closer at how this happens. Remember the phrase, “stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about”? This common parental threat actually trains us to breathe shallowly when our body and mind really want to cry.
Shallow breathing helps us stop crying and regain parental approval – or at least avoid more pain. Pretty soon, we are “programmed” to automatically breathe shallowly in the face of any stressor that might possibly lead to crying. In fact, soon thereafter, we nearly lose the ability to breathe with the diaphragm, reducing oxygen intake by as much as 65%.
This may explain a lot about why stress has been identified as the reason for most illness and disease. Chronic shallow breathing is a wide open door for health problems, brain imbalances, and relationship problems too.
In my next post, we’ll look at how and why to deepen your breathing so you can feel more relaxed and self-assured.
Holistic Health & REALationship Coaching
10 Mar 2011 Leave a Comment
Welcome! My mission is to share uniquely helpful info and support with people who are ready and willing to take back their power. This must be done if you are serious about creating a healthy and satisfying life for yourself, complete with supportive, loving “REALationships”.
If you want someone to save you, you’re not going to find it here (nor anywhere for that matter). Because real internal power is based on taking personal responsibility for yourself, your choices, your beliefs, words and thoughts.
If you’ve seen The Secret movie, you might be excited (or disappointed by now) about the idea that you can attract into your life what you want.
What you might have missed is the fact that you ARE attracting – all the time, every day. If you don’t like what you are experiencing, it’s because your subconscious mind is not on the same page with your conscious desires. It’s like trying to run the latest version of “Word” on a very old version of Windows! They’re not compatible. And the “firmware” is more entrenched than the “software”.
Although you can’t do it alone, you are the only one who can update your old “personal operating system”. And guess what… Your life is gonna keep crashing until you do.
Chances are, you’ve already done a decent amount of “clean up” in your personal operating system… if not, you probably would have clicked away by now ! ;>)
Well, my expertise is in supporting your personal growth on all levels… physical, emotional/mental, and spiritual.
Emotionally and mentally speaking, we’ll cleanse the emotional pandora’s box that starts to fly open whenever you feel scared, angry or sad. And how to approve of yourself no matter what you are feeling. We’ll even get into how to express your feelings (even anger) in a way that doesn’t hurt anyone or sabotage your goals.
Spiritually, we’ll explore the difference between religion and God, the underlying spiritual principles that lead to integrity and joy. We’ll also look at ways to experience God for yourself.
And since the body is an equally important component of the triad, we’ll discuss easy ways to clean up your physical health. Like choosing better foods, health supplements, non-toxic products for personal & household care… and things like that.
Whether you are suffering from depression or anxiety, a physical illness, or just want to feel more fulfilled and accepted, you are sure to benefit and grow with me – in private coaching sessions or workshops. Well, that is, as long as you come with an open mind and are willing to take steps toward what you really want.
My office is located in the west end of Hartford, CT. Call 860-796-1480 for more info or to schedule an appointment.
